My Father Has Died
Published on March 18, 2006 By Larry Kuperman In Home & Family
Just after 9:30 PM this evening my father, Abraham Kuperman, died. He is survived by three children, his daughter Marilyn and sons Gil and Larry, eight grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. My mother proceeded him in death. He was 97 years old. He touched the lives of many people with his warmth and humor and will be missed.

Abraham was born in 1908, in Czarist Russia. His father, my grandfather, was in a prison camp in Siberia at the time of his birth. The family would emigrate to America, with first my grandfather and then the remainder of the family coming over. My father lived in this country since 1913. Arriving with virtually nothing but valuing education, Abraham was most proud of the number of graduate degrees achieved by his children and their children.

Abraham lived in Fall River, Massachusetts, and the Bronx, New York, until his retirement. He retired to Ann Arbor, Michigan and most recently received care in the Bethany Lutheran Village, outside Dayton, Ohio. He worked as a baker, a driver and in New York's Night Court until his retirement.

It is impossible to compress a human life into a few paragraphs, certainly not a life of the duration of my father's, but he taught all his children to value learning, that laughing is the best alternative to crying, to never despair but to always "see what happens."

Peace.

Comments
on Mar 19, 2006

My sincere condolences on your loss,  Mr. Kupeman.

You paid a beautiful tribute to him,  it tells how he touched people's lives.

God Bless Him and you too.

on Mar 19, 2006
Larry, know that the entire House of Zion is in mourning with you. May his memory be a blessing for all of us.
on Mar 19, 2006
I'm very sorry to hear this Larry, my sincere condolences.
on Mar 19, 2006
Your tribute shows that he will be well remembered and sadly missed.

Sorry for your loss.
on Mar 19, 2006
Thank you all. I am, as most of you know, a private person. I posted this on JU because this community means a lot to me and for the support that I knew that I would receive.
on Mar 19, 2006

When my grandmother died, no one was around but us grandkids (her children were all out of town).  We took care of the arrangements, and before the funeral, I cried for her.  SO at the funeral, I got the name of the rock.  As I was the only one of the grandkids that did not (my cousin did such an excellant eulogy for her!).

YOu have just shared a moment like when my cousin gave his eulogy.  My boss was there when it happened,  One of the best bosses in my career (and I have had many - and many great ones).  My boss was moved as I am today.  Not having known my grandmother, but from the testament of those that did.

I never met your father, but I will always respect him due to your testimony.

on Mar 19, 2006
There's no way that I can put myself in your shoes, Kupe. I want to say I understand, or because of what you mentioned in our previous conversation that things have been easier than they might have been, but I can't. No one really knows how much this really hurts but you, so most of what I keep writing and erasing falls flat.

A long life, well lived, with that much love left behind is something great to rejoice in as you deal with your loss. I said in my email, just know that we are all here for you if you need us. You and yours are in my prayers.
on Mar 19, 2006
Kupe, I'm sorry for your loss and I wish that I had some words of wisom or comfort for you. All I can say is that he's only ever a thought away from you.

My family and I don't pray in the traditional sense, but we will remember your father, your family and yourself as we sit down to eat together tonight.

Namaste, Kupe.
on Mar 19, 2006
A coworker forwarned me that your father's passing seemed imminent. I'm sorry Larry. Like Baker, I don't know what you are going through. I do know that it is never easy to say goodbye to a loved one. The Wardells' best wishes are with you and your family.
on Mar 19, 2006
Thank you all.

BakerStreet, your email meant a lot to me.
on Mar 19, 2006
Larry, I am very sorry for your loss. That was a beatiful tribute and I hope and pray you can find comfort at this time.
on Mar 23, 2006
Hey Lar, my condolences to you and the guys. I didn't really know your dad that well, he was the guy in the living room while we were in your room doing those nasty things us kids did, but I guess the men of his generation were similar in that way ie. my dad, my father-in-law. As long as we take the life lessons they instilled in us and expand on them and instill them upon our children I guess there may be hope for the world. Peace.
on Mar 24, 2006
Larry:

I'm sorry to have missed the opportunity to express my condolences earliery. Please forgive my tardiness, and accept my deepest sympahties. My thoughts/prayers are with you.
on May 20, 2006
I was truely sorry to read this about your dad. He was an amazing and complicated man who was honest and down to earth. I was always amazed ( and a little scared of) him. He will always ba alive it the hearts of those he touched !